We know resolutions don’t work and health changes and transformations take time. We believe that there are alternative ways to set goals for yourself without unrealistic expectations. We believe in a more holistic approach might be to set goals related to what will fit your lifestyle realistically, without causing added stress. Now let’s focus on ways to help yourself succeed with these goals.

  1. Setting smaller goals as part of a bigger intention can help make the journey more realistic and rewarding. This way, you can celebrate more accomplishments that fuel your motivation to keep working towards the main goal. For example, if your end goal is to focus on healthier eating, you could set mini-goals that lead to that, such as aiming to cook at home two extra nights a week if you generally eat out at restaurants a lot. Then once you have that down, you decide you want to pack your lunch a couple of times per week. Then you can focus on eating one or two more servings of vegetables each day for a few weeks. Setting these smaller, more attainable goals as a pathway to healthier eating takes off some of the burden of setting high expectations from yourself from the get-go.
  2. Find an accountability partner to help you attain your goals. If we continue with the healthy eating example, a partner, friend, or family member can help you stick with your ambitions by offering support or sharing in the process. Making your efforts a social act will help you persevere when it gets tough, keep you accountable, and offer a companion to make the journey with you.
  3. Be kind to yourself and realize that you are not your goals. If you don’t maintain your goal one day or week, it does not affect who you are as a person. It does not lower your self worth. Year-long ambitions are a long-term process, not an immediate transition. Focus on the small achievements you make, and realize that small progress is still progress. Forgive yourself if you don’t meet your goal one week, understanding that the effort is an accomplishment in itself. You are enough, just as you are.